Tuesday, February 5, 2013

The Other People

Here’s the thing if you have no children which is part of a foundation of having a family, you tend to ‘menumpang kasih’ of other families, such as your brothers/sisters’s families for all kind of ocassion such as weddings, family gatherings, birthdays etc.. You’re close to them, especially if you grew up with them, be with them during those ups and downs moment . But no matter how close you think you are to them, you have to be prepared that one of these day, invitation will become scarcely and sometime it stop altogether. The reason was, not because they hate you or doesn’t want to be in your company anymore but because you are not related in a way, a family unit should be. It is just that you are considered ‘the other people’. Once you are ‘orang luar’ you are forever ‘orang luar’ and ‘sekadar di pinggiran’ sahaja... Francescca Peter la pulak.... Orang yang ‘menempel’ like us doesn’t mean much. 

You have to be prepared when the times come, try not to have any ill feeling or ‘terasa hati’ or ‘even berjauh hati’ with them... you have to understand you are not, I repeat are not the “original” family member. And you have to know where you and your husband are in their “ family organisation”. The sad part was when your husband said, ah, it’s ok, it is intend for their family affair only, they just want to be among themselves, I also doesn’t want to join them etc... you feel sorry hearing those “excuses” from him because he felt like he has been left out and try to justify their action. And you know that he think that he is not wanted anymore but he just doesn’t want to say it. You wish you can say something to ease the “pain” but you know you can’t said it out loud for fear of making it more worse. The only thing that you can do is to listen to him and said it's ok...

At the end of the day, you realised that there’s nobody actually really care for the both of you except you and your husband because your family tree never grows any branches.....

Sekian tulisan wanita yang telah lama building a defense mechanism untuk mengelakkan diri dari merasai berbagai rasa.....

6 comments:

JM said...

sedeh lak n3 ni huu

Kdg sy salu pikir, cane if one day mak pergi awal dari saya... dan time tu abg dgn adik bz dgn famili msg2... dan sy lak masih camni hidup sorang2.. cane agaknye...

Lately ni perkara camtu sering merunsingkan.. sy ni jenis suke pikir ke depan sgt.. lps tu tension meroyan..

Kadang takut nk hadapi semua tu nnt..

Org tak faham sebab dierg tak kan alami benda mcm sy alami ni.. yg dierg tahu hanya marah je kalau sy ckp benda2 tu semua..

Mengada sgt sy ni kan datin.. huuu

cik_moleq said...

Kak, i feel u...*cyber hugs*

be strong ok. semoga apa yang jadi pada kita akan mendekatkan lagi kita dengan Yang Maha Penyayang.

Sis Claudia said...

Dear JM,

Sensitive la pulak sis datin JM nih..hehe....I try not to be too emotional sometime but I can't help it, betul JM dah tua2 nie macam2 kita pikirkan tentang future yg masih kelam...

yes orang tak paham sebab dorang tidak berada dalam situasi kita2 nie...

no, you're not mengada JM, this is the reality of it kan...

salam peluk cium,
sis datinmu...

Sis Claudia said...

Dear Cik Moleq chayang,

hugs you back dear, tq for your advise, your kind word and support...thank you so much for your doa, amin.....


Anonymous said...

Sis, 1st times nak komen...sya juga mcm sis, msh xde zuriat...kdg2 terpikir sama cam yg sis pikir...tua2 esok sapa yg nak jaga kami berdua....suka baca blog sis sbb dpt semangat dr org yg senasib...

Zie...

Sis Claudia said...

Dear Zie,

InsyAllah Zie and suami, mana tau kan suatu hari nanti. As for sis and husband nie tak payah lah dah nak "pencen" nie ha pun hehe..

Thank you kerana sudi baca blog yang tak seberapanya ini...

hugs,
Sis